The sweet spot

I had an interesting thought in the shower yesterday. This actually happens a fair bit. It seems that hot water and nice smelling soaps stimulate ideas in my brain.

I was thinking about my weight ( I had just been on the scale prior to climbing into the shower) and how I have been maintaining it AND getting to eat a lot of things I enjoy – foods I enjoy in quantities I enjoy at a frequency I enjoy.

I have found my “sweet spot” (pun intended), I thought. The intersection of having what I want (results) for an amount of effort I am willing to give.

If I changed one of these things – my desired result or my level of effort – I would miss the sweet spot.

For example, if I lowered my goal weight I would have to either adjust my exercise or my eating (what I eat, how much I eat, or how frequently I eat), or more likely both.  I have considered and even attempted this previously, but to be honest, I don’t find the results worth the increased level of effort which for me is often in the form of giving up foods I enjoy. (What? No donuts?)

Similarly, if I stopped putting in my current level of effort, I wouldn’t enjoy my current results.

The “sweet spot” is entirely subjective and can apply to any goal.
What do you want and how hard are you willing to work for it? What are you willing to give or pay?

Big goals that inspire effort are great. But if you truly aren’t willing to do what needs to be done to reach a goal – and yet you cling to that specific goal – you will be in a constant state of disappointment.

It’s about managing expectations. Be honest with yourself. If the cost to reach the goal makes you miserable, is it worth it? Conversely, would a little more effort push you into the sweet spot?

Maybe you should go have a nice hot shower and think about it. 😉

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Curious

I typically begin my coaching appointments with a “check-in” question to get a feel for where the client is at.
“How are you today from zero to ten – with ten being awesome?” Or…
“Choose one word that best describes how you’re feeling today.”

You get the idea.

Lately, I have been test driving some new questions to see where they take us.
“Choose five words to describe how you are not feeling today” brought some interesting responses and even stumped a few clients. (I like to throw them off every once in awhile 😉.)

Today, I was wondering how our initial expectations or approach to the day impacts what actually happens. So in curiosity, I launched with “What outlook or attitude did you approach the day with?”

It seems reasonable to believe that our “wake-up” thoughts and expectations for the day will influence what follows, but I am curious, what’s your experience?

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