Hide ‘n seek

I got up extra early this morning. The plan was to find some inspiration and write a blog post.  The problem is that inspiration likes to plays hide ‘n seek…and it can be really good at finding places to hide.

So I considered not posting today. I could easily be the one hiding – behind a big fat excuse (like busyness – that’s a classic!!). Excuses make great hiding spots.

But the OTHER voice in my head ratted me out. It drew attention to my hiding spot.

So here I am, out in the open, nowhere to hide.

Interestingly, I came across an old email this morning from 2012. I was replying to a client who had contacted me to work together for a second time. But then she hesitated and considered backing out – at least for awhile.

This was my reply:

I realized at the end of last year, that there are a few different groups of people — those who are asleep (not even realizing there is “more” out there for them), those who dream of doing more and making change, and those who are truly ready to do what it takes.  Since then, I have actually turned down some clients who I didn’t feel were really ready. Sure they wanted change, but they were not willing to commit to the work required.  So I must admit that the fact that you are so willing to set this aside again without trying to negotiate makes me wonder if you also are not ready?  What brought you to the point of contacting me again? What is it that you hoped you could achieve through coaching? AND what is keeping you from having it (besides excuses)?
Six months from now, you can be in the same place you are today or you can be somewhere different. It’s up to you.

Hmmm…it seems that sometimes I need to take my own advice.



Ask and ye shall receive

I shared a good laugh with my son Jordan the other night as I recounted some of the interesting challenges we faced during my three visits to Ghana, Africa…specifically around our attempts to bathe with poor water pressure.

“Honestly, it was like trying to wash your hair with someone just spitting on your head,” I joked.

We often ended up filling a cup with the s-l-o-w stream of water and dumping it over our heads. And we employed this simple work-around for our 2 week trips in 2012 and 2013. (At least this guest house had warm water!)

In 2014, we returned to the guest house in Accra. But on this trip, I discovered some new and interesting information about our accommodations.

I can’t recall how the conversation unfolded or even who it was with. But I clearly remember learning this helpful little tidbit of info — when you want to take a shower, let the manager know and he will turn on the water pump.

My jaw dropped. You’ve got to be kidding. How many “showers” had we attempted with drool level water pressure only to find out that all we had to do was ask?

I had fallen into the trap of assuming once again. It made sense to me that the water pressure would be poor in a developing country. So I accepted it as such and didn’t think any more about it.

It seems this simple life lesson has required a lot of repetition in my life.

Hmmm…in what other areas of life have I settled, when all I have to do is ask?



*In 2012, 2013 and 2014 I had the delightful privilege of leading small teams of volunteers to Ghana with an organization called Possibilities International.